Today, I want to talk about something which I feel really holds us back, and that is ‘getting clear and accepting what we want from life’. That can really bring up a lot of icky feelings for us.
Do you know what the worst part about creating your ideal life really is? It’s that many people don’t really understand what you’re doing, or why you’re doing it, or how you managed to achieve everything you’ve managed to achieve. “What are they going to think of me if I’m this happy, or this rich, or this abundant, or this anything?” And it can really hold us back because we want to bring people with us, and we want to have them enjoy things as well and lift them up with us, but some people aren’t willing or ready to do so. And we can too easily fall into their way of life and the way they want to achieve things.
So we end up just bumbling along: we stay in our jobs; we go to the office; we commute. And the thing is, anyone can work in an office job, and anyone can push paper around, and people can be really good at that. I’m sure you are, and I know I was, but if it’s not what you want, then it can really hold you back, and it can make you extremely unhappy.
Because if we desire something different – even if that desire seems really self-focused or even selfish – there’s normally a bigger reason behind it. And you’re not given these desires unless there is a reason for them, no matter how materialistic, or silly, or selfish they may seem. When we work for ourselves, we get out of this dollars-for-hours mentality. And with the right strategy, you can really grow your business without necessarily putting in more effort or more work or more time, so you can create the time, the money, the health, and all the resources that you need to live life on your own terms and achieve everything that you desire to achieve.
And so if you were having more time and more money, what could you do with that? Would you volunteer more? Could you start a social movement of some kind? Could you campaign for a cause that’s really important to you? Could you just spend more time with friends and family and have a really enriched personal life?
If you had more money, what would you do with that? Could you give more to charity? Could you fund other entrepreneurs and grow more businesses? Could you fund education for less advantaged people? Could you just buy amazing clothes and look and feel great every day? Think of all the things that you could do if you had more financial resources.
So if you have a desire to live differently, no matter what that may be – whether that’s to have more free time, or to earn more, or to travel more, or just do something really fun – think of what the ramifications of that would be on your life.
If you take me, for example. I was working 70 hours a week; I was working hard, I wasn’t living life as I wanted to live it. I had this desire for freedom: I wanted more time off; I wanted holidays; I wanted to travel. And while that seems on the face of it self-focused because it was all about me living a better life, actually by taking steps to get to that desire, I created something without ever imagining that I would create it in its current form. Living Rosy started off focused on health, focused on clean eating, and it slowly built into a platform to help other women live their freedom lives as well.
So what started off as a really borderline selfish motive (to get out of a job, and travel more, and live life on my terms), has actually snowballed into something bigger, and I’m now helping loads of other women live their dreams as well. And I’m actually on course to create change in one million women’s lives, and bring freedom businesses to one million women over the course of my career. And that’s my big dream now and my big goal, so my desires have shifted away from just being focused on me as well. I’m helping other people, and there is a social movement behind it. And if you think about it, if I can get more women out of jobs and into freedom businesses, then that puts pressure on corporations to create better lives for working people, to focus more on work/life balance, and helping people live the lives that they want to live as well. It puts pressure on them so they don’t have all the cards in their hands.
So it grows and grows and grows as you really step up and live what it is that you want to live. The Dalai Lama said that “the world will be saved by the Western women,” and I really stand behind that. I think the more I can help women stand up and live the lives that they want to live (and not just the lives that they have been funneled into by their education and by society or whatever), I feel like the world will become much more enriched and people will start living much fuller, much happier lives.
So if you’ve got this desire for something more than what you have right now – whether that seems materialistic, or selfish, or just seems not even really necessary to you – I invite you to think about that more, to take a step toward it, to start working out how you could achieve those desires. Because I bet you there’s something bigger behind that, which will bring you much, much more fulfillment than just the initial self-focused first step would.
So if you could live life any way you wanted to live it, what would it be? I would love to know. Leave me a comment in the box below. See you next week, guys!
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