When the going Gets Tough
Hi, everyone! It’s Rosie Paterson here, the founder of Living Rosy, and I am here today to give you your weekly dose of entrepreneurial inspiration. Today, we are talking about what to do when the going gets tough. How do you make sure that you can push through and make something happen even when you’re dreading doing the task itself. Let’s find out, shall we?
So how do you make sure that you can make it through when the going gets tough? What are you meant to do? I’ve found in my own business life, my own corporate escape, and obviously coaching others, that often the problem is that the goal we set just feels too big, and it’s too uncertain. We don’t know what we can do; we don’t realise if we can do it or not.
Now, that’s actually a good thing because when we create a goal that’s bigger than ourselves, bigger than what we’re capable of, that means we actually have to grow into that task – so that is actually okay. The problem is when we don’t feel like we know if we can achieve it, it can often make us scared. And when we’re scared, we tend to do things that won’t actually move us toward that goal at all.
When we’re scared, we tend to do things that won’t actually move us toward that goal at all.
So to give you an example, when I first started my business, the biggest thing I had to do obviously was get out there and get clients. And I’d got my packages together and all the rest, I just needed to go out there and actually find some clients.
I had it in my head that getting a client was going to be really, really hard. It was really complicated, really difficult. It was probably going to be scary; it was probably going to be awkward or something was going to be really, really horrible. And so I really resisted it, I really procrastinated, and I kept myself so busy with these tasks from morning till night, 9-5, 9-7pm even, with all of these tasks that were kind of half-useful, but they weren’t actually something that was really going to move my business forward; they weren’t the priority.
I felt really guilty if I hadn’t finished my to-do list by 7pm
And I felt really guilty if I hadn’t finished my to-do list by 7pm, or if I hadn’t done this, I hadn’t done that. And I was really stressed that I wasn’t making any money, but I was doing so much, I was so active and so busy.
But I remember at the time I was in a group programme, and I was speaking to one of the girls in that programme. And what she said really revolutionized my entire thinking, and it’s really stuck with me until today. And I was complaining to her, saying “I’ve got all this to do, and I’m so busy, and I have this to-do list,” etc., etc. And “it’s going to be so tough”. And she said to me, “Well, Rosie, what if it was easy? What if you decided to make it easy?”
What if you decided to make it easy?”
And that literally blew my mind – beyond blew my mind. I could actually choose to make something easy? I could actually decide to make it easy? I mean, literally, I did a 180: I was like, what?!
And it’s so true! You control your thoughts; you can chose to make anything easy or difficult, fun or not, whatever. And this is something that over time I’ve really learned and developed in my business because our thoughts literally become things; that’s a very common phrase in our world. And it’s so true!
You control your thoughts;
you can chose to make anything easy or difficult
If you imagine, let’s say you’re late. When you realise that you’re five minutes late to get out the door and get to the office, it’s not like then it stops there. You go “I’m late, I’m late, I’m late” – and then you can’t find your shoes, and you spill toothpaste on your blouse, and you’ve missed your train by five seconds. All these little things kind of pack up and pack up, and you started off being five minutes late, but you actually arrive to the office twenty-five minutes late.
This happens as well if you’ve got bills. If you’re stressed about money and youre thinking, “I have so many bills. Where are all these bills coming from? Why is it always me? Why do I have to be the one who always has all the bills?” Well, you’re literally sending out that signal, saying, “Hey, I’m thinking about bills…bills, bills, bills, bills.” So bills will pop up. Your car will randomly break down; your boiler will randomly blow up when it wasn’t meant to. All these extra bills will sort of pop out of nowhere.
So if you go into a conversation with a prospective client, and you’re thinking, “It’s going to be so tough, they’re going to be so mean, I’m going to mess up. It’s going to be awful; it’s going to be really, really tough and really, really difficult.” You’re literally sending out that difficulty out there. So probably either the client’s not going to show up, or they’re going to be awkward, or they’re going to be difficult, or there’s going to be some kind of unease between the two of you, and it’s just not going to be a fun experience.
However, if you are thinking “I can’t wait to speak to a couple of amazing clients, and they are guaranteed to be my perfect people to work with, I’m going to be so excited to work with them. They are going to be so excited to work with me.” Well, then you call in these people! They are the ones who click through your link and sign up for a call with you. They are the ones who jump onto your packages. And suddenly because you decided for it to be easy, everything becomes easy.
suddenly because you decided for it to be easy, everything becomes easy.
So that is really my pearl of wisdom for the day: choose for it to be easy. It’s so possible, and it’s so revolutionary when you do make it happen.
So what I want to know is – hit me up in the comments – what are you going to make easy today? And I will speak to you very, very soon.
Confidence to Quit
I am Rosie Paterson, I’m the founder of Living Rosy, and I am here to help you escape your 9-5 and start a freedom business so that you can actually live the life that you really want to live, that you’re going to love.
And I have a free challenge, which I think might be the first step for you. It’s a five-day video challenge, and I go through all the things you need to think about when you want to plan your corporate escape. Sign up at www.livingrosy.com/confidencetoquit.