I talk a lot about all the amazing benefits of a Freedom Business - but what happens when things get too good? Let’s find out...
Today I want to talk about the flip side of unending happiness - what happens when things get too good in your life and business? Notice the emphasis there on the “too”. You see, how much is too much? It’s all totally fabricated in your own mind.
Your Comfort Zone
We all have a comfort zone for happiness, growth, earnings - everything. It’s a level that we enjoy every day, it’s our “normal”. Everyone has their own comfort zone depending on their previous experience: if it’s been modelled to you that it’s “ok” to have lots of money, or a happy relationship, then that will be your ‘normal’ experience.
But if, for example, you’ve always been told that money comes from hard work, if you try to set up a passive income business, you’ll subconsciously freak out because earning money that easily isn’t how things are meant to be.
When things get better than they have been before, we start to bump up against this artificial ‘ceiling’. Depending on your triggers, it could be things like: you’ve been single for ages, then we meet the perfect guy. Or you lose 5kg while having fun on holiday, or you finally get your first clients in your new business.
When things get too good, or too easy, we often self sabotage. We’ll not call him back, or binge on chocolate, or stop marketing our business. Sometimes we even manifest big dramas to keep us distracted - we crash our car, or get sick, or break our computer. Have you ever had anything like that happen to you?
Growing Your Limits
When we start to self sabotage, it’s our subconscious mind’s way of keeping us safe. As long as we play within it’s self-defined boundaries, we’ll be ok. But if we want to grow, we need to push through those boundaries. I do lots of work on this in my main programme Become Your Own Boss, because it’s so key to your business success.
How to Counter Self Sabotage
So how do we handle self sabotage? Here are my tips:
1. Your awareness of this problem is a huge step forward. If you know you are likely to mess up, you can be more vigilant.
2. Get into reality. Have other people created the happy reality you want? Find some mentors you can follow, and successful people you can emulate. Know that if they can do it, then it’s possible for you too.
3. Up your self belief. Why can’t you be in a happy relationship, or have 20 clients per month, or make $1 million a year in passive income? Try journalling test answers out. You’ll start to see a whole bunch of stories and excuses come out - “I'm not smart enough”; “I’m not lovable”; “I would waste the money”.
4. Once you’ve got all these stories out into the open, you can change them. You have the power to change your thoughts and beliefs, no matter how long you’ve held on to your previous ones. Re-write your excuses in their positive opposite - so instead of “I'm not smart enough”, make it “I am very intelligent”. Repeat these positive sayings (they’re called affirmations) as often as you can, and infuse them with positive emotion when you do. Little by little, you’re start to believe them!
Where have you self sabotaged in the past? What did you do about it? Leave a comment and let me know!
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